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Channeling Anger The Right Way
By Joe Fier | November 15, 2007
From time to time, it is inevitable that someone, or something will strike a nerve and cause you to become very angry. These times are totally scary. During anger, some of the craziest people come out that we haven’t seen in ourselves. Although we try to avoid anger with our largest efforts, it is not always a completely bad thing. Many good relationships and new situations have become much stronger and closer from dealing with anger in the right manner.
I am not a person who easily gets worked up over situations or people that might happen to say hurtful things towards me. I do, however, know that when something has really hit me on the right nerve, my stomach starts to burn and turn. These are the times that I have learned, and continue to learn how to channel my anger out in a more constructive method. With this sudden burst of energy and muscle tensing, there has to be some good that can stem from anger. Since these are some results of anger, we cannot blame them for being either good or bad, they are what they are. We are the ones that choose to use these situations as constructive or destructive towards the relationships and happenings at hand. Here are a few points to keep in mind for the next time you feel your blood starting to move a little quicker:
- Be Honest. Release your feelings towards the person who has caused you any pain. This may be difficult, but respond openly and honestly with strong words so the other person knows how you’ve been hurt.
- Set a Goal. You want to have the person who hurt you acknowledge that you’re hurt and that it won’t happen again. Find an agreement between the two of you so you can avoid future misunderstandings.
- Release. Allow yourself to let go of any hard feelings. Begin to start feeling better while you forgive and forget. Being able to release these feelings will bring on a new light to a relationship or situation and free yourself to be more generous about forgiving.
- Concision. This is similar to the first suggestion, but not quite the same. Give yourself five to ten minutes to get your anger out by being as honest and direct as you can. As this may not solve the problem immediately, it will definitely open some doors that might need further examination. This will take more time, but by exploring everything on your mind, hostility will quickly lessen and further understanding will be plausible.
With these simple little tricks, hopefully it will allow us to take an uncomfortable situation and make it much more beneficial. The only secret is learning how to channel your anger in a way that will prove more constructive than destructive.
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November 15th, 2007 at 1:26 am
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